Conquered Manhood

Some followers have requested that we post Chastity advice on here - So me and my keyholder/BF have come up with these series of posts. First off, some disclaimers / background on us.

1: We are not medical professionals. The things we describe in these posts are observations and tips that apply to us, but everyone is different. If any of this seems even remotely beyond your comfort level - don't do it.

2: There's good pain and bad pain - Before you engage in any BDSM activities it's important for you to understand the difference.  Remember, the human penis is not a redundant organ, like a kidney or a testicle.  You only really get the one.  So take care of it, cuz without it, all your chastity cage investments are for nothing.

Me and my key holder use the terms Sub and Dom, and we have a healthy sense of humor about our kink. It is not what some people refer to as a Master/Slave dynamic. 

There's really only one other person in our lives who is aware of our kink and that's our roommate, (who happens to be the dirty pervert who introduced us to chastity in the first place).  At times he joins us for some fun, but we aren't a thruple or anything.

My first experience in a cage was when our roommate showed us one that he'd purchased for a guy he was kind-of seeing at the time. It was a CB-6000 plastic cage. But that guy wasn't even remotely interested in letting someone lock his dick up. So our roommate ended up dumping him later that week, then on Friday he and my BF talked me into trying the thing on instead. That little experiment turned into my first full weekend without a dick. We still use this one from time to time, I like it, but for long term wear, it doesn't hold a candle to the cages with ergonomic rings AND you need a degree in engineering to assemble it. It did come with multiple ring sizes and ball gap spacer sizes though, which was convenient. This is by far the most customizable cage I've ever tried, which is probably why it appeals to beginners who aren't sure about the fit they want. In general though, most cages provide a much larger ball gap that anyone would ever need. You don't need much unless your balls are particularly tight to your body for some reason.

The second cage turned out to be a very poor quality black plastic cage. It required sanding down rough seams and it had such a big ball gap that my dick could fall out of it without even trying. Plus it had a hinged ring that pinched like a bitch - I refuse to even include a picture of it. Plus I don't believe It's even for sale anymore.

My third cage was the Bird Cage. My first metal one. This one has a long cock cage with bars positioned so that you could very easily run your fingers down the length to tease yourself into a big bulging caged erection. It came with 4 different ring sizes and feels so heavy that there's no way I could wear it out for any length of time. After the complicated mess of a 8 piece CB-6000 cage - this one seemed so elegant and simple. it was also my first solid ring - meaning no hinges or pieces that come apart. I remember being afraid that I'd get hard and wouldn't be able to get my dick out of it. But that hasn't been an issue, although it's best to err on the side of a larger ring to prevent that from happening. If you're new to putting on a solid ring here's how: Insert ball #1, then ball #2, tug the ring toward your body, then smoosh the dick through the remaining space. Many are tempted to go dick first and that's a mistake - a flaccid dick is probably the most spongey and flexible appendage imaginable, it can handle being squeezed into things much smaller than a testicle.

My fourth cage was the Riker's. This cage fits like a glove. It also came with multiple ring options, but once you know your right, there's only 4 pieces (including lock). It ticks all the boxes for long-term wear. 1: Ergonomic solid ring, 2: Simple design, 3: thick Plastic/Resin material on tube that numbs any attempt to really get hard in it. 4: it's Small but not a nub - so my dick fills it just right. This is currently my official long term cage when followers demand that I lock up. You can go about your life while wearing it, and you may go an hour or two without realizing you are wearing it. It's very similar to the Holy Trainer style cage (which was probably the original developer of this style - but this one was cheaper and came with a padlock option).

My fifth cage was this one. Its cock ring is interchangeable with the Bird Cage. But the tube is quite a bit shorter and the diameter is smaller as well. When I'm forced to get hard in this one, It bulges like crazy, and is much more of a punishment. The bars on it are arranged horizontally so when I'm being teased in it, it's a subtle, less satisfying sensation compared to the Bird Cage. So from the Dom perspective, you get the benefit of producing a caged hard-on but without pleasing the sub as much in the process.


And as for Number 6?  I'd really like to try an ergonomic metal cage.  That's the only style (outside of a full belt) that I haven't really tried.  My Keyholder has often threatened to get me an ergonomic metal nub cage - which kind of scares me of course, to give up that much of my manhood.  But so far, I haven't been put in one yet.  I have tried on an ergonomic metal one, but never worn one long term.

So as you can see this kink isn't particularly cheap.  I didn't really find the perfect long-term one until the 4th try. There are of course lots of cheap options online, but we've gone with ones from sextoy websites so we probably ended up paying a little more, but aside from that second one, they've all been really good quality. 

COMMON QUESTIONS:

1: What cage do you recommend for longterm wear?

Plastic / Resin cages with ergonomic rings are my choice for longterm wear currently.  The plastic cages are light weight and keep everything high and tight. Anything the lugs yer unit down, will not be sustainable. The Riker's I use is nothing super special, there are lots like it online.  It's very similar to the Holy Trainer, but cheaper.  I imagine a small wire cage with an ergonomic ring would also be good, as long as it isn't too heavy.  Some people don't react well to metals for long periods of time, and they don't tend to fit as well as the plastic/resin variety.  A snug fit at the base is ideal if you want to avoid injuries and be able to remain locked as long as you are told. 

Before I found my current cage, there was a built in limit to how long I could stay locked, now I barely have any excuse. If you have multiple cages it's not a terrible idea to switch them up throughout the lock-up.  They all produce slightly different pressure points, so switching may relieve any aches and pains you experience in one particular area.  But in the end, super longterm wear isn't going to work everyone. You may have to accept that your physiology wasn't suited for it.  (Frankly, in all honesty, no one's body was designed for this - some of us just get "lucky")

In the end, you are looking for comfort, wearability, and ease of hygiene.

2: How do you deal with hygiene when caged?

We do an uncaged cleaning whenever it feels necessary. Maybe every other day or less. Typically, this is how it works.  I take a shower with the cage on, then he comes in, cuffs my hands behind my back (or just makes me put them up).  Then he unlocks me, soaps my junk up, switches the water to cold for rinsing, dries my cock thoroughly, then re-cages me. He does not trust me with unfettered access to my own dick for cleanings...and he is right to feel this way. I would definitely jerk off, if given the opportunity. 

My cage of choice is comfortable but it doesn't doesn't have good airflow, there are only 3 holes. Airflow helps a lot with hygiene, which could be an argument for getting a metal wire cage instead (if you don't want to unlock as frequently).  Make sure to sit when you pee, like a bitchboy. Dab any remaining pee with toilet paper, get it up in there as much as possible.  It also helps to assure that you are aligned correctly before going. That way you won't have to deal with contaminating your own cage. Also make sure after cleaning that you dry as much as possible, I've even used a hairdryer on the low setting to finish the job inside the cage.  If you have a more enclosed cage with minimal airflow, you'll need to air out yer dick from time to time.  I'm sure you can find someone to handcuff you naked to a bed for a couple hours, if you agree to suck off their friends or something.  

3: How do you deal with pinching / chafing / injuries?

I haven't had many of these problems since I switched to my current longterm cage.  I did have a couple issues with the CB-6000 early on, because that cage is prone to pinch zones. In general, if you sustain an injury that breaks the skin or causes a blood blister on your dick. Take the cage off to heal and consider a different cage with less pinch zones.  Rounded edges are your friend. Always avoid cock rings with hinges (even if they have rubber protectors at the hinge - because the top may be the problem).  The fewer pieces a cage has, the better. Using Olive oil or mineral oil is always helpful to prevent chaffing also. Some people claim coconut oil is a good choice as it is "naturally anti-microbial" but I've never tried it because I don't want my junk to smell like a Pina Colada.